25 April 2014
Yes! Another success! I mean another girl chats with me! And she's pretty cute too. Not sure about her personality yet but a success is a success.
This one is slightly different - I had forgotten to ask for her number on the 23rd, and I just couldn't let it go since it's so hard to find any girls below 30 in these clubs, so I emailed her my number via her profile page. Usually, this doesn't work, and this is actually the first time an email has worked for me.
Woot!
This may be good but I must not expect much here. Cute fresh grad. She's going to attract a lot of guys for sure, regardless of her personality.
And today I got some horrible news - my elder staff is quitting to take care of her grandchildren. She's the only one who can handle the sewing machine, so this is really bad news for me. First thing is to ask the other staff if the friends she mentioned have any ability in sewing. Second is to push all the admin work that the elder one used to do to her. Third is to persuade her to be willing to stay back slightly longer if the transporter is late, which he is sometimes during our peak seasons.
As for myself, I will have to go back more frequently to make sure the new employee is doing ok.
C'est la vie.
26th April 2014
Spent the morning exercising before going to my bro's gf's home to 过大礼. Turned out to be nothing. All we did was bring some pastries over and the parents gave us some stuff in return. Dowry I think. Since we had no parents and we don't give a damn about the dowry, we had to bring back some tubs and some of the pastries.
After that, I was free. Pretty awesome day chatting with two ladies. The new girl, I had already asked to join me for flamenco tomorrow but I don't believe she will come. Doesn't matter, if it doesn't work out, I move on as usual.
Brains and beauty. Just young and lost. Still unsure about her. She seems to be warming up to me pretty quickly but I can't tell yet what kind of person she is. NUS fresh grad confused about what career to pick. From China too, but I don't mind since she's been here for a while.
28th April 2014
Met the cutest and most bubbly girl so far during the dance workshop but didn't manage to talk to her because she left immediately after it was over. Sucked.
Couldn't get her out of my mind; she made every single girls I've encountered in the last few months look plain.
The worst thing is that since we never got to chat, there was no opportunity to get her number. Letting go of someone like this just like that feels bad.
Hence there is that possibility that this will be one of those people you really like but will only meet once and never again.
C'est la vie?
What is this shit?
Although my detective skills and google-fu have led me to her facebook account, this is information that is useless by itself, unless I discover what she likes and fake a coincidental encounter. Wow, I bet girls would think this is creepy! Why am I even thinking this?
Is she really that fantastic?
I couldn't get her out of my mind the entire day and I'm blogging about her now at 8am the following day, so... maybe.
Yet according to the FB page she's the artsy type and very, very outgoing. Probably way younger than me too.
The best normal thing I can do is attend the final workshop and hope she comes again.
Or I could PM her on FB and say that it wasn't too hard to find her there after seeing her name on the instructor's website. Would that be creepy or is that just my emotions talking?
Am I just being shallow? I know I'm usually quite shallow but is this purely shallowness?
Or maybe I'm just crazy for bubbly girls.
Tentatively, I will PM her just that, but I MUST give it a few days. Let's see if I cool down enough to think clearly by Wednesday. She really was that attractive!
I don't want to simply give up on girls like that.
Or I can see if she comes for the next workshop. If she does, I'll ask. Otherwise, I'll PM her saying that I checked the instructor's website out of an interest in her classes and happened to see her name.
Not sure if I'm patient enough for the latter though.
29th April 2014
Ok, the fresh grad is distracting me enough that I don't think of her that much anymore. I'll just wait till this Sunday and ask for her number if she's attending the workshop again. Otherwise, I may message her.
The grad girl, just like most of the other girls, needs time to warm up. A little on the pessimistic side though easy enough to get her to be more positive, though she needs regular reminders.
Young, idealistic and disappointed that reality falls short of her expectations after graduation, she's not looking to settle down so this could be good if we really can click.
I think I'm just being shallow here, but practice is practice. I need to practce chatting with the ladies, seriously. At this point, I have yet to ask a girl out for an actual date. How do I even approach this topic?
Ok, I've confirmed that masturbating daily is bad. It makes me a terrible conversationalist by making my mind very sluggish. No wonder married couples only have sex 2-3 times a week. How can they operate at work if they do it whenever they can?
This is going to suck but I will need to bring my old Nokia N8 phone to camp with me for internet access for my iPad.
It all began with the realization that I can no longer rely on the 3G0-USB-dongle-cum-mobile-router combination to get 3G for all my devices since I no longer carry a bag every time I go out. The last time I tried, I bent it too much while it was inside my pocket and broke something inside.
This means I need to use a phone for this and I'm ordering a Lenovo P780 to serve this function. This phone, though not sold by any retailer in Singapore, has an insanely huge battery (40000mAh) and is dual-SIM. Browsing the web and messaging normally will get a user 30 hours of usage!
The catch is that its OS is badly optimized and doesn't have Gorilla Glass, so maybe that's why Lenovo didn't bother to market it here.
I've ordered it for less than S$320 on Qoo10 and it's going to take two weeks to get here. By then, I'll be almost done with reservist training that's starting this week. Hence during the training, I need an alternative makeshift setup to get 3G for all my stuff.
The problem now is that N8 can only create an ad-hoc network with an app, and the Windows OS of my Lumia 520 doesn't work with such a network. I can put the 3G data SIM in the Lumia but I don't want the hassle of moving stuff around and losing Whatsapp conversations, so I'm going to use the expensive 3G just for these two weeks.
As for the N8, I'll use it for my iPad which can work with such a network.
After that, I'll have the new phone that will be using both the data SIM and the N8's, and I'll finally retire the N8.
I don't think the grad girl is interested. Either that or she's more introverted than she thinks she is. It's taking quite a bit of effort to get her to start chatting, and although she seems happy enough when we talk, she ends our conversations and never resumes any.
Time to move on.
19th May 2014
Today I embark on yet another strange journey in life, the second so far. Before, it was merely the taking over of a mature business. This time, the risks are far greater than what I've ever expected myself to take.
There is a great chance that all my effort in this venture will yield not a single dollar.
Exploring new fields isn't a new field anymore.
By this point, it is undeniable that I'm a gambler now.
It is strange how such opportunities just suddenly appear out of nowhere. Never saw either of them coming before they hit me, and I've always said yes so far. Wonder if they were wise decisions, but I'll never know till I summarise my life some day.
20th May 2014
As for girls, I've stopped searching for new choices since just before my ICT a fortnight ago. Right now, I am in the dilemma I expected to be in right from the beginning - two very nice girls who seem ready for long-term relationships now like me.
The chances of this happening were not high to me before, but here I am, not knowing who to choose.
One won't be back till mid-June, while the other does not live in Singapore. The former is more of an unknown but is very ready to go on a date when she returns; the latter is probably ready for marriage already. I'm not even exaggerating about the second girl - I have had the approval of her parents and several relatives for months now. Apparently they praise me all the time in front of her, and she always asked me when I would fly over.
The biggest issue, IMO, is the fact that I am a Chinese (Chinese in race) businessman. As a businessman in this part of the world, it is inevitable that I will not be 100% faithful to whoever I marry. If I am to entertain clients, there are things I have to do to fit in, and this is a fact that the girl I end up marrying must accept.
The first girl, whom I currently like slightly more, seems to be of the idealistic opinion that her boyfriend must never cheat on her. The second girl is extremely close to the wife of my banker cousin, and he thinks that she is the sort who will accept anything just like her cousin and probably already knows enough about his personal life from his wife.
Now that I've put it this way, the second girl does seem to be better wife material. However, the first girl may accept it once I explain it to her what I expect to do in my future if I am to make more than the pittance I do now.
Simplest solution here is to wait, date the first girl a few times, then talk about this. But then again, I will never know for sure if she will be ok with it forever.
And to clarify, the first girl is the grad girl I mentioned last month earlier in this post, while the second is the girl I did the bungee-jump with at Auckland.
Funny how things turned out when this cousin tried to be my wingman for an evening. None of the girls at the wedding were viable options - those who were still single were so for good reasons. The final result of that evening was the contact of a KTV hostess at some shitty bar. It was strange to find a decent girl at the place like that, but currently in my life, strange is the new norm.
We found her to be decent despite her job for a few reasons.
First, when we shook hands, her hands were cold.
Second, she was quiet and shy like myself. The only time I touched her was during the handshake.
Third, she told me she worked there only because the boss didn't force them to do things they didn't want to.
Fourth, she refused the tip from my cousin even when he doubled the S$20 to S$40. That was when he suggested that she should give me her number.
I have doubts - on the Internet, there are tales of such girls beguiling men with their sob stories. According to my wingman, she was good for a fling and I agree, but
1) I am not looking for flings.
2) She may be lying all along and one day may convince me.
3) If she's really honest, that's even less reason to do this to her.
So I stopped talking to her after a few words on WeChat. Net result of that evening: absolutely nothing but poor opinions of the girls at the wedding.
Speaking of the wedding, my impromptu speeches were so different in quality. I hadn't had time to prepare during my reservist training so I googled a bit before I boarded the minibus and thought it up on the way there.
It seems that my English speech was very good but my Cantonese one was embarassing. Woot! At least one was good given the amount of preparation that went into them.
I have guts? What does it mean to have guts? If having guts means the willingness to do what is necessary, then yes I do have them. Yet if it is something I have to do regardless, why am I considered to be brave to do it? I am merely doing whatever needs to be done, that's all.
Oh, this isn't good. A third girl is asking me out on a date. Got to stop all these now. A tough decision between two girls is hard enough.
