07 July 2014
Ok, finally one legit success!
For once, I managed to ask a girl for her number IRL directly and not at a singles event. Oh yeah!
Cute but... she's a 3rd year uni student. I'm going younger and younger, not sure if this is even a good idea.
Regardless, YOLO!
New option if it turns out that I should move on. The current one, I'm going to wait till she returns to SG this month and try out a date or two. That's it.
08 July 2014
So the fresh grad is turning out to be pretty rich. After all the hiding, she finally blurted out that her family has a maid before revealing that both her parents are bosses of their own companies. And now she's going to work in a bank.
This may get intimidating.
On the other hand, I'm not sure if we really click. She said she's chatty but these days, she rarely checks her phone. To me, that's a strong sign of a lack of interest in talking to me.
Turns out that undergrad was a transguy, as in born female but pretty much male in all ways except physically. The only way I can date him is if I'm gay, since he's definitely going for treatment in the future.
Had an interesting chat though; they're so different from lesbians.
Tough life.
Ok, I am a little disappointed too - he was pretty interesting to talk to.
09 July 2014
Since the girl seems to be uninterested, time to continue to meet more girls.
Abandoning the use of Meetup.com as my main method but will still attend some. It's not bad, just not good enough. Too many older ladies, too few younger.
A rethink of my strategy is clearly required.
Discovered several options: volunteer work, foreign language course, clubbing, attending Diner en Blanc next year.
Removing clubbing from the list because despite what some clubber friends said, everything points to the fact that clubs are bad places to look for steads.
Volunteer work is a maybe because it is frowned upon, apparently, unless it's stated as a singles event.
Diner en Blanc is next year.
Remaining best possible option: attend a foreign language course.
Although it sucks that I've to do this all over again, I'm not exactly back to square one after all these months. Certainly, lessons have been learnt and friends were made who will make life easier for me in the future.
10 July 2014
Time to make a move. She's finally back in SG!
11 July 2014
Thought she had blocked me yesterday when her "Last seen" status vanished after arriving in SG. Apologized at midnight about being busy so I'm just too sensitive.
Anyway, asking her out is going to be hard. Both of us are busy. Possible though.
I think something's wrong with the Whatsapp app. Maybe it's a sign that I should be using the new Lenovo phone I got a while back as my main phone.
12 July 2014
So I can't ask her out because her mum's going to stay till next week. Her parents are very protective of their only daughter so I should worry about them.
Interesting lesson last night. There were a number of hot girls but my cousin had advised a while back that in each gathering, a guy can only ask for the number of one girl, so I picked one... and I failed.
Just couldn't get the right opportunity except for that one short sliver of a moment when we said bye, during which I just couldn't muster the courage to do it in front of everyone.
Apparently, that was a good thing.
My dating coach advised that I cannot keep asking for numbers in every gathering, not without being subtle about it. Apparently, if word spreads, I will look like what they call a "tryer", not to mention insincere.
In contrast, another guy there said it was perfectly ok when I mentioned this advice to him on the train home. Then again, he's a few years older and still single while my dating coach is a girl and in a steady relationship. Both used to be players. It's obvious here who's words are worth more.
Tomorrow, I will be going for a dinner, but it will not be to get another number. Instead, it will be a practice session for interacting with the ladies, including the ones I will never be interested in.
In other words, no more numbers. I like this current one too much to risk it.
It's crazy but the transguy just offered to introduce a nice girl to me. Not very good-looking but apparently she's good-natured and stuff. In a word, homely.
Nah, I'm already trying to date a better girl, and this new one is not attractive enough to worth risking that girl for.
It's worth noting because I've only known him for less than a week! Damn he's so nice!
Sunday 13 July 2014
Sunday 6 July 2014
Rant 1198 / I Like My Sugar With Coffee
04 June 2014
Low-hanging fruit. Going to ask the latest one out. Would ask the fresh grad out but she's still overseas on her grad trip, and we're running out of things to talk about since all she can think about is places to visit in China and I barely know any of those.
This one, I don't know. I'm concerned about her finances and that she's probably got ADHD.
Low-hanging fruit.
Chinups somehow improving. Almost managed to kiss the ceiling above the bar today. Weight dropped from 92 to 88 again. Must have eaten way too much in the last few days.
I don't even know how it works. It's not like I'm exercising much. Just around 3-5 quasi-chinups a day.
05 June 2015
It's true - I'm lonely. She's cute too.
Asked her out for a movie this weekend. Got a positive reply. Another milestone.
25 with a private diploma; I really am concerned about her ability to stand on her own, hence this does not look like it will be a long-term thing.
In the meantime, another girl is considering sharing my double bed room with me in Taiwan if she can't find any travel buddies.
As for the girl in China, we barely talk anymore because she's trying to explore almost the entire China before she starts her working life.
Yet another girl is asking me to go to Cambodia with her. This one is really all platonic since she's attached and there's at least one more guy with us. Sucks that she's attached, but not surprising at all. She's pretty awesome, though she seems pretty serious about Jesus. Religion is a downside for me.
And a failure. This Indonesian girl barely talks. I tried, she seemed interested since she always replied but her replies were so short I had nothing to respond with. With these many things bugging me, I'm not going to bother to talk to her till she warms up to me. It looks possible though.
I just couldn't help but say,"The fuck...?"
07 June 2014
09 June 2014
So that's a date. We just sat around and chat a lot. Somehow I don't talk about movies I've just watched so we didn't discuss the one we watched much. I don't know, I just can't think of anything to say about the film usually, and it was no different this time.
And I don't know about this girl. She's nice and all but I will probably never let this become "serious".
Low-hanging fruit. Going to ask the latest one out. Would ask the fresh grad out but she's still overseas on her grad trip, and we're running out of things to talk about since all she can think about is places to visit in China and I barely know any of those.
This one, I don't know. I'm concerned about her finances and that she's probably got ADHD.
Low-hanging fruit.
Chinups somehow improving. Almost managed to kiss the ceiling above the bar today. Weight dropped from 92 to 88 again. Must have eaten way too much in the last few days.
I don't even know how it works. It's not like I'm exercising much. Just around 3-5 quasi-chinups a day.
05 June 2015
It's true - I'm lonely. She's cute too.
Asked her out for a movie this weekend. Got a positive reply. Another milestone.
25 with a private diploma; I really am concerned about her ability to stand on her own, hence this does not look like it will be a long-term thing.
In the meantime, another girl is considering sharing my double bed room with me in Taiwan if she can't find any travel buddies.
As for the girl in China, we barely talk anymore because she's trying to explore almost the entire China before she starts her working life.
Yet another girl is asking me to go to Cambodia with her. This one is really all platonic since she's attached and there's at least one more guy with us. Sucks that she's attached, but not surprising at all. She's pretty awesome, though she seems pretty serious about Jesus. Religion is a downside for me.
And a failure. This Indonesian girl barely talks. I tried, she seemed interested since she always replied but her replies were so short I had nothing to respond with. With these many things bugging me, I'm not going to bother to talk to her till she warms up to me. It looks possible though.
I just couldn't help but say,"The fuck...?"
07 June 2014
09 June 2014
So that's a date. We just sat around and chat a lot. Somehow I don't talk about movies I've just watched so we didn't discuss the one we watched much. I don't know, I just can't think of anything to say about the film usually, and it was no different this time.
And I don't know about this girl. She's nice and all but I will probably never let this become "serious".
Maybe there is some truth to the online quiz result saying I may have narcissistic personality disorder. Back when I first saw it, I immediately dismissed it when it said I lacked empathy.
The girl I dated the other day just told me her grandfather is in critical condition in a hospital and I feel... absolutely nothing.
No concern, no sympathy, nada - just another Monday evening.
I reacted as I was supposed to but inside me, nothing stirred.
No concern, no sympathy, nada - just another Monday evening.
I reacted as I was supposed to but inside me, nothing stirred.
This kinda worries me though, the lack of concern. Shouldn't I feel sad or worried?
10 June 2014
Communication. Maybe that's the key.
I like her but I believe I should date more girls.
Choices. Two other girls I am interested in dating but cannot at the moment - do I wait or do I search for more? Not impossible to date though, just got to wait a bit more.
There's yet another girl who's been trying to talk to me and making me overthink. She's attached but whenever a girl initiates conversations with me more than once within a week, I just automatically think that there's more to it than simply the desire to chat with me.
Maybe I'm underestimating my conversational ability? Unlikely. Or maybe I just need to be less insecure.
13 June 2014
Finished Lifeless Planet. Interesting game. It's so easy it's more of an interactive story than a game. Or maybe, the gameplay is meant to stretch it out to pace the story. Maybe.
She's unable to come out this week due to the passing of a family member, and explicitly told me that she wasn't trying to avoid me. That implies that a second date is practically guaranteed.
But the other girl will be coming back to Singapore soon.
Drinking Long Flat's 2012 Pink Moscato now. Pretty good for the price: $17.25 (U.P. $18.95). It's the sweet and gassy sort, yet not a fortified wine. Rose wine, whatever that is. Great for non-drinkers like me. Never saw the appeal of dry wines anyway.
15th June 2014
Nope nope nope.
I may be overthinking this but I'm feeling a little guilty right now. This girl is just too... girlish. Not that I'm particularly manly but just.. no.
21 June 2014
Absolutely hilarious, the last scene.
Spent a lot of time thinking about how to say it and neglected to text her since Monday. Finally texted her this morning and she seemed confused. Apparently it would have been better to just ignore her but I felt that she deserved an explanation. Unfortunately she didn't seem to understand me so that didn't go well, and I ended up taking her advise and ignoring her, which led her to block me.
Weird, it was only one date. I guess it was a good idea to do it so quickly. Who knows how she would have reacted if I had taken longer?
The fact that she blocked me showed that she was taking it quite badly. She must have been seriously insecure then, to fall for my newbie sweet talk to that degree. Guess I made the right choice to end it after just one date.
23 June 2014
This energy! Been quite a while since I felt this energetic! But how to resist releasing it?
27 June 2014
Planet Explorers is FANTASTIC! It's exactly the kind of game I've always been looking for! Lots of exploration, custom-building and quests! Holy crap!!!
Exploration: huge map even in the relatively small story mode. I've spent two days in the game and I've only covered 2 biomes, a forest and a grassland, and under the forest is a huge cavernous maze!
The building part is big too! In this game, building a car does not simply mean getting all the components and clicking on "Build". Instead, the player goes to the Creation menu and customizes a vehicle from scratch. The game only builds the seat, engine and wheels using the "Replicated" button but the player has to decide where to place these components and build the frame from scratch.
And you can probably build tanks that way too.
This is the same for watercrafts, aircrafts, structures and equipment.
To build a base, there are also sentry guns in addition to whatever structures you want to build (like watchtowers and fortified walls). Not sure if the sentry guns can be customized though.
Really recommend it for ppl who love to build and explore!
This is weird. She must be the most sociable girl I know because she's just invited me for 3 events over 4 days.
I'm not doing anything here because she's attached. No sweetening of my words or anything.
They aren't the sort of dates that I may find inappropriate between a single guy and an attached girl since she's invited others too, except for the one on Monday.
Too bad I'm flying on Monday.
Can people really be that friendly and sweet?
I said sweet because she helped me with two things consecutively.
First, I helped her order some stuff and in exchange, I asked her to just give me a free movie ticket the next time she organizes an outing instead of paying cash. Hence she invited me for a movie on Saturday. The problem here was that it was the same movie I'd already signed up for with another guy for tonight, and I'd already cancelled my slot for the last outing he organized. It might be annoying for him to do it again and find someone to take my place.
When she realized that, she offered to talk to him for me since he owed her favours.
After that, she figured she had made my Friday night empty, so she invited me for another event tonight. Holy crap, a girl this sweet, I can't believe her time isn't fully booked by her bf. What is she doing alone on both Friday and Saturday nights?!
OR maybe I'm just going crazy from not fapping for so many days.
28th June 2014
So it was just the two of us plus another girl as the others couldn't make it.
06 July 2014
Should I be worried if I'm chatting with a girl I'm not trying to date far more often than with the one whom I am?
Maybe she's busy, or maybe it's time to move on; I'm inclined with the latter.
Time to rethink my strategy if this goes on. Perhaps I really should consider the new idea that girl I'm chatting a lot of with gave me.
Anyway she also gave me a crash course on nail polish shopping. I never noticed the sample nails until last week in Seoul when I provided personal shopping service for her while wandering the streets of Namdaemun. It was so what I kinda expected when it resulted in me standing around there for about 20mins or half an hour just to get a bottle of nail polish and a box of glitter.
Very amusing, and I'm not being sarcastic. She was SO fussy lol.
That girl I'm trying to date, she was much simpler, mainly because she had been spending her last week in Europe and had been able to buy plenty of cosmetic stuff over there, and partly because the only Korean brand she was interested in was quite out of the way for me. In the end, I only got her 60 masks. Cheap because Etude House was having a promotion and their latests masks were going for less than 5k wons (about 800KRW per SGD) per packet of 10. The normal price for most brands seems to be 10k wons per packet.
Kept saying she's not rich, but the more I chat with her, the wealthier she seems and the more worrying it's getting.
As for Seoul, the street food at Myeongdong seems to be changing. This year, there's ice cream in some kind of edible waffle tubes, meatballs, and roasted gingko nuts, among many others, not just fish cakes everywhere like the first time I was there.
Oh yes, jajangmyeun too, but DO NOT TRY. Stick with those sold in restaurants. The stuff they sell at the roadside stalls is terrible, and it's inconvenient to eat anyway.
Regardless, it's great because I can literally have a full meal just by walking around Myeongdong. Meatballs, Korean vermicelli, seaweed fishcakes, roasted nuts, and have at least two types of ice creams for dessert. Awesome!
Just not cheap LOL
Far cheaper to get a nice bowl of bibimbap for 4-6k each. Or visit the porridge shop just next to ibis Ambassador Myeongdong, the hotel I was staying at, for their nice porridge or dumpling soup. Still as awesome as ever but expensive as fuck. 10k wons for the seafood porridge! That's like S$8! However, to be fair, it's still pretty good value with the fresh ingredients and free flow squid kimchi (and radish and cabbage kimchi). Yes, I only go for the squid kimchi because that's the only place I know that serves it.
Chinups somehow didn't get worse when I got back. Very slightly harder but still able to kiss the ceiling when I'm up, and I'm still able to start from a lower height, about 60 degrees below the horizontal.
Planet Explorers is awesome but... I lost an important NPC!!! Ugh!
He's one of the NPCs that gave me a quest that was vital to the storyline, so now I'm stuck at this point with the only solution being to search a gigantic area to find him again.
I'm restarting this. There's no console command to make him pop up next to me like in Fallout or Skyrim.
10 June 2014
Communication. Maybe that's the key.
I like her but I believe I should date more girls.
Choices. Two other girls I am interested in dating but cannot at the moment - do I wait or do I search for more? Not impossible to date though, just got to wait a bit more.
There's yet another girl who's been trying to talk to me and making me overthink. She's attached but whenever a girl initiates conversations with me more than once within a week, I just automatically think that there's more to it than simply the desire to chat with me.
Maybe I'm underestimating my conversational ability? Unlikely. Or maybe I just need to be less insecure.
13 June 2014
Finished Lifeless Planet. Interesting game. It's so easy it's more of an interactive story than a game. Or maybe, the gameplay is meant to stretch it out to pace the story. Maybe.
She's unable to come out this week due to the passing of a family member, and explicitly told me that she wasn't trying to avoid me. That implies that a second date is practically guaranteed.
But the other girl will be coming back to Singapore soon.
Drinking Long Flat's 2012 Pink Moscato now. Pretty good for the price: $17.25 (U.P. $18.95). It's the sweet and gassy sort, yet not a fortified wine. Rose wine, whatever that is. Great for non-drinkers like me. Never saw the appeal of dry wines anyway.
15th June 2014
Nope nope nope.
I may be overthinking this but I'm feeling a little guilty right now. This girl is just too... girlish. Not that I'm particularly manly but just.. no.
21 June 2014
Absolutely hilarious, the last scene.
Spent a lot of time thinking about how to say it and neglected to text her since Monday. Finally texted her this morning and she seemed confused. Apparently it would have been better to just ignore her but I felt that she deserved an explanation. Unfortunately she didn't seem to understand me so that didn't go well, and I ended up taking her advise and ignoring her, which led her to block me.
Weird, it was only one date. I guess it was a good idea to do it so quickly. Who knows how she would have reacted if I had taken longer?
The fact that she blocked me showed that she was taking it quite badly. She must have been seriously insecure then, to fall for my newbie sweet talk to that degree. Guess I made the right choice to end it after just one date.
23 June 2014
This energy! Been quite a while since I felt this energetic! But how to resist releasing it?
27 June 2014
Planet Explorers is FANTASTIC! It's exactly the kind of game I've always been looking for! Lots of exploration, custom-building and quests! Holy crap!!!
Exploration: huge map even in the relatively small story mode. I've spent two days in the game and I've only covered 2 biomes, a forest and a grassland, and under the forest is a huge cavernous maze!
The building part is big too! In this game, building a car does not simply mean getting all the components and clicking on "Build". Instead, the player goes to the Creation menu and customizes a vehicle from scratch. The game only builds the seat, engine and wheels using the "Replicated" button but the player has to decide where to place these components and build the frame from scratch.
And you can probably build tanks that way too.
This is the same for watercrafts, aircrafts, structures and equipment.
To build a base, there are also sentry guns in addition to whatever structures you want to build (like watchtowers and fortified walls). Not sure if the sentry guns can be customized though.
Really recommend it for ppl who love to build and explore!
This is weird. She must be the most sociable girl I know because she's just invited me for 3 events over 4 days.
I'm not doing anything here because she's attached. No sweetening of my words or anything.
They aren't the sort of dates that I may find inappropriate between a single guy and an attached girl since she's invited others too, except for the one on Monday.
Too bad I'm flying on Monday.
Can people really be that friendly and sweet?
I said sweet because she helped me with two things consecutively.
First, I helped her order some stuff and in exchange, I asked her to just give me a free movie ticket the next time she organizes an outing instead of paying cash. Hence she invited me for a movie on Saturday. The problem here was that it was the same movie I'd already signed up for with another guy for tonight, and I'd already cancelled my slot for the last outing he organized. It might be annoying for him to do it again and find someone to take my place.
When she realized that, she offered to talk to him for me since he owed her favours.
After that, she figured she had made my Friday night empty, so she invited me for another event tonight. Holy crap, a girl this sweet, I can't believe her time isn't fully booked by her bf. What is she doing alone on both Friday and Saturday nights?!
OR maybe I'm just going crazy from not fapping for so many days.
28th June 2014
So it was just the two of us plus another girl as the others couldn't make it.
06 July 2014
Should I be worried if I'm chatting with a girl I'm not trying to date far more often than with the one whom I am?
Maybe she's busy, or maybe it's time to move on; I'm inclined with the latter.
Time to rethink my strategy if this goes on. Perhaps I really should consider the new idea that girl I'm chatting a lot of with gave me.
Anyway she also gave me a crash course on nail polish shopping. I never noticed the sample nails until last week in Seoul when I provided personal shopping service for her while wandering the streets of Namdaemun. It was so what I kinda expected when it resulted in me standing around there for about 20mins or half an hour just to get a bottle of nail polish and a box of glitter.
Very amusing, and I'm not being sarcastic. She was SO fussy lol.
That girl I'm trying to date, she was much simpler, mainly because she had been spending her last week in Europe and had been able to buy plenty of cosmetic stuff over there, and partly because the only Korean brand she was interested in was quite out of the way for me. In the end, I only got her 60 masks. Cheap because Etude House was having a promotion and their latests masks were going for less than 5k wons (about 800KRW per SGD) per packet of 10. The normal price for most brands seems to be 10k wons per packet.
Kept saying she's not rich, but the more I chat with her, the wealthier she seems and the more worrying it's getting.
As for Seoul, the street food at Myeongdong seems to be changing. This year, there's ice cream in some kind of edible waffle tubes, meatballs, and roasted gingko nuts, among many others, not just fish cakes everywhere like the first time I was there.
Oh yes, jajangmyeun too, but DO NOT TRY. Stick with those sold in restaurants. The stuff they sell at the roadside stalls is terrible, and it's inconvenient to eat anyway.
Regardless, it's great because I can literally have a full meal just by walking around Myeongdong. Meatballs, Korean vermicelli, seaweed fishcakes, roasted nuts, and have at least two types of ice creams for dessert. Awesome!
Just not cheap LOL
Far cheaper to get a nice bowl of bibimbap for 4-6k each. Or visit the porridge shop just next to ibis Ambassador Myeongdong, the hotel I was staying at, for their nice porridge or dumpling soup. Still as awesome as ever but expensive as fuck. 10k wons for the seafood porridge! That's like S$8! However, to be fair, it's still pretty good value with the fresh ingredients and free flow squid kimchi (and radish and cabbage kimchi). Yes, I only go for the squid kimchi because that's the only place I know that serves it.
Chinups somehow didn't get worse when I got back. Very slightly harder but still able to kiss the ceiling when I'm up, and I'm still able to start from a lower height, about 60 degrees below the horizontal.
Planet Explorers is awesome but... I lost an important NPC!!! Ugh!
He's one of the NPCs that gave me a quest that was vital to the storyline, so now I'm stuck at this point with the only solution being to search a gigantic area to find him again.
I'm restarting this. There's no console command to make him pop up next to me like in Fallout or Skyrim.
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