Finally, an ERB season finale I really like.
What does one do when a girl one doesn't really like in the gf sort of way expresses her liking for him?
My first time encountering this, discounting the ridiculous but mild harassment by another woman.
I know I should be nice, but to what extent?
My first time googling "how to reject a girl nicely".
She also told me her age in the text so I'll just pretend I didn't know she was this old until now, then go with the "we can still be friends" thing.
I already knew roughly how old she was when she told me how long it's been since she was in uni.
22 July 2014
Yes! Happy happy joy joy.
Another small step towards success!
Wanted to make the first date easier by asking her to join a group outing, but she wasn't interested in Hercules. Fortunately, she also told me the movies she WANTED to watch! Woot!
Let's see if I can get that first date with her.
26 July 2014
It's been weird. First she gave me enough hints to confirm that she didn't want to watch movies with me, then when I tried to set up a meeting to pass her the facial masks I bought for her in Korea, she suggested watching a movie with me before enthusiastically agreeing to brunch too.
I don't even know what's going on now; girls are complicated. This is like a date that isn't a date, seriously. However I won't be paying for her since I'm not trying to pursue her anymore. Just going to be friends now and treat her mixed signals as just being very friendly, just like I do with another girl.
It's weird that I'm making good friends now with only girls.
27 July 2014
So I realized that the above was just me overthinking this. Should just treat her like other friends.
Funny thing was that when I told another friend how I behaved today with her, that friend told me I should have apologized for not waiting for her before ordering and getting a seat.
Since I'm just treating her like other friends, that was not necessary. So what's this friend trying to tell me? That I should try to be more than just a friend.
It's not a date date; this is just two friends catching a movie and having a meal. Why should I bother with that sort of stuff?
01 Aug 2014
So there was this niece of one of the ladies at a dinner outing I attended who had the most beautiful smile. She came with a guy whom she claimed was just her friend, but it looks more like he is her bf.
Had a hard time resisting the urge to focus on her but it got easier when her aunt invited everyone to an outing at a shooting range. Now that's a better opportunity to approach her.
Not sure if it's even a good idea or not though since she's still at the age where it's cool to wear more blings than Christmas trees.
No, this is just me being shallow.
03 Aug 2014
So I've been seeing this girl almost everyday in the last week and it's all platonic. Not always 1-to-1 but mostly so.
This is so new to me. She's got the looks (really doesn't look her age) and the personality but too bad she's a little too old. Even if we ever date (which is impossible since her current bf is practically an angel), by the time I'm ready to get married, she'd probably be almost ready to deal with menopause. Moreover, she strongly believes in marrying for love, and there is none between us.
Nope. Just friends. She's a great friend, giving me a lot of good advice in many things. Not perfect, since she's a little naggy sometimes like a mother, but she's pointing me in the right direction so it's all good.
Come to think about it, I really am juggling a lot of things now. In addition to running this business, I'm also studying for the boating license, getting ready for a fashion-related course, studying for CFA level 1, reading certain finance papers/magazines, studying web design, and all the while going out to know more ladies.
In addition, foreign language courses are under consideration right now, while I've just started on a speed-reading course.
Speaking of which, learning speed-reading will be at the very top of my priority list from today onwards. Mastering this ability will make everything I'm juggling far easier.
04 Aug 2014
Now I'm a third of the way through the speedreading online course. Now I need time to get used to some of the new techniques.
06 Aug 2014
So I made a whole excel sheet to calculate which flights and times I should pick. Booked a Contiki tour package for NZ later this year and now I need a cheaper flight to compensate for the huge price tag.
This is going to be a little complicated.
The conclusion of my little research was that I can fly on Scootbiz to and from Australia, plus Jetstar economy between Australia and NZ, and still pay less than anything that can be found among full-service airlines.
Scootbiz for long haul! And it's still cheaper than full-service economy! Fuck yeah!
Yeah I thought about taking just one airline for the entire thing but Scoot doesn't fly to NZ while Jetstar's SG-AUS flights are more expensive than the aforementioned combination.
To add to the confusion, this flight plan includes transiting at different airports in Australia. From SG, I will be flying to Gold Coast before flying to Auckland. At the end, I will fly from Christchurch to Sydney then Singapore.
On the bright side, the flights to Auckland will both be direct flights, plus almost a whole day for me to explore the airport at Gold Coast, maybe even Gold Coast itself.
The end will be less comfortable though. The tour will end at 6pm but I will fly off only at 6am the next day to Sydney, then to SG almost 6 hours later. Deducting 2 hours for check-in, that's 4 hours to explore the airport.
11 Aug 2014
Apparently I missed Scoot's National Day sale since I wasn't in their mailing list. Oh well.
15 Aug 2014
Failed the theory test for the boating license. I can fail exams.
No potential target at all. Realized that I've always had a distorted view of romantic relationships, that they can be started from nothing. Like if I like a girl, I can try to woo/date her and get a gf.
It does not work that way.
Yet I have also discovered that this view is rather common among the less sociable guys.
What a tragedy.
The fact is that we all have to start from friendship; this is the norm.
Relationships that began in school were different because as schoolmates and classmates, we can observe one another much more easily without being close friends. Outside of school, there are few of such opportunities.
So now, I'm not going to bother targeting specific girls. Just going to try and know more, then see where it goes.
The tour to NZ will be covering Christmas and New Year's Day so the trip is going to be fantastic. Not cheap though, at 3k USD just for the tour, excluding flight tickets and the more exciting optional activities like skydiving.
I estimate that the whole thing will cost me around S$7-9k. $3.6k for the tour, $1.7k for the flights and at least $2k for food and drinks during the free nights and optional activities.
My bro decided to get an air-conditioner for the living room and a bi-fold door to separate the two living rooms to keep the cool air within one.
In addition, we're adding curtains to all the windows, so total is S$6k. Since his wife is pretty much officially living here, I'm paying only a third.
Still going out for food a lot with this female friend. I need to watch my weight. First time finding someone whom I can talk to for so long, although it's mainly her.
Wonder if I can ever find a gf like her. Her bf is so lucky but I wonder if he really understands that.
After comparing various cards and asking for advice from multiple sources, I've decided to sign up for Citigold for the Prestige card, if I can qualify. Technically I don't have enough annual income but there is the chance that they may change their minds when I deposit the minimum amount to qualify for Citigold.
The Citibank Prestige CC seems to have one of the best mileage for expenditure (1.4miles per $1 local spend) and has rebates for groceries too, so I like it more than others.
With this card, why do I need another card for normal spending? People seem to like to have one for miles and one for normal stuff but this card is good enough for both purposes.
Meanwhile, the shallower part of me wonders if I'll get a hot RM to talk to me about their products.
