Monday 24 March 2014

Rant 1193 / Still Going Up! Still Going Up. Up Is The Only Path!

Note: It's obvious that I look really stupid in the earlier parts of this post and I have considered not publishing them, but I think I will go ahead and post everything. My life isn't perfect and I'm not a particularly smart guy; hiding it here while I'm semi-anonymous is pretty pointless.



17 March 2014


Great success!

She's just... Whoa! If not for the fact that she's Muslim, she'd be too good to be true. Yea, that's the catch, and a huge one lol.

But the things she's been doing, WOW! No wonder she gave her number so quickly! Such an extrovert! She's totally my role model now!

At 22, she's already planning to start an aqua gym within 3-4 years - in New York. I don't think she's lying because she really does travel a lot, and have photos to back up her travel stories. Yea, her family used to be rich, so she's really a different breed compared to me and people I know. So ok, my family used to be rich too, but I didn't grow up in wealth. Maybe just upper middle class, back then.

Her, she travels almost every month as long as she's not too busy. Wtf, right? She's so outgoing, she's based on Australia, grew up here, went back to Australia for a while before getting posted back here last year, and sometimes travel to the US for work. Holy shit. 22 years old. Holy shit.

As I type this, a sense of disbelief is exploding in my mind. Well, at least she's agreeing to more dates so I can find out more about her.

Yea, dates. I just had a lunch date with such an incredible girl, and I've only started chatting on Whatsapp with her at 8am today.

Now, I have an even harder time believing that she's still single. Am I being paranoid or does this make sense? How does a girl like that stay single for so long? She says she doesn't like Muslim guys in Australia and here, but I know plenty of nice Malay guys.

I don't know. On one hand, she's just unbelievable. On the other hand, she's just unbelievable.

Probably not a good idea to think too much on this; I should just be more cautiou, even though her Australian number does say a lot about her finances.

Regardless of whether the date was really "awesome" like she said, I'll have to wait till the second date to confirm whether this is going well. For all I know, she could just be very polite.

As for the long term, yea it does not look that bright unless I expand my business. In fact, the chances of a happy ending, assuming everything she's told me is true, are very slim.


















18 March 2014

So she's willing to meet today for lunch again! Now I'm excited because a second date usually means success to a significant degree. Not complete success but this must be going somewhere.

Still worried about the long term consequences though.

Anyway it's not confirmed because of her work. If she's busy today, she's already agreed to lunch on Thursday anyway.

But I can't keep treating her lunch. First date, ok. Today, she's got some serious family issues to worry about, so ok again. But next time, I'll need her to pay her share. At the rate I'm going right now, I'll need to watch my money to have any hope of taking that business class flight to Canada this year or early next year.















19 March 2014

She's totally ignoring me, but then again, she's got major issues at home and lots of work. Kinda rude though.

Or maybe it was because I was straightforward enough to tell her that I can't keep treating her lunch because I want to start saving for a chance to take a business class flight to Canada.

She's so sad.

Yet I am not as motivated as I would with other girls the more I learn about how devout she is to her religion.

As for her character, I still don't know enough about her to make any sort of conclusion. I think she's as self-centred as I used to be because she neither offered to pay for our first lunch nor really asked about me, although to be fair, her story is pretty bad so she's got a lot on her mind.

Or it may have been an elaborate scam to get free lunches from gullible guys.
















Got my MOS shirts and chinos back from the tailor, and during the same trip, I also brought my suit, my blazer, 4 pairs of pants and 3 shirts for him to fix. $247 this time, but it's way cheaper than buying brand new ones to replace all of them.

That suit was the most expensive to shrink at $85 but that's just 10% of the cost of that suit, so overall, from that perspective, I feel that I've got a pretty good deal already.
















20 March 2014

Second day ignoring me. Strange that she didn't block me outright, but I guess that's still a rejection. Still a bit confusing since she asked me where I was, for some reason, after we parted that day. Phew! No more worrying about the long-term consequences of dating a good Muslim girl. Now to move on to another girl! I think this one is going to be overweight but practice is practice, and I'm not particularly slim myself.

As for the MOS shirts and chinos, the pair of pants was ok. Pretty awesome since the fabric is super stretchy, but the slim fit shirt was too slim for me. Dang! All that loose skin around my torso needs to go away! In the meantime, I can only wear the classic fit shirt and keep the slim fit one in my wardrobe for the future.

The weights training is also going well for me. It's starting to feel easier to do lateral lifts with 3kg weights. I think tomorrow I will move on to 5kg ones.























21 March 2014

Went for another movie outing with another small group. This time there was this girl who seemed to keep trying to talk to all the guys, not just me. I don't know if she was joking but she claimed that she was 31 and hence she was joining all these outings to know single guys.

I gave her my number; practice is practice. She seemed like a pretty fun person too, going to Cambodia alone next week. Technically I could join her, but will I?

Another girl there talked like a robot; I have no idea why and it seemed rude to ask. She just seemed to pause between every word in her speech.

Also saw Mark Lee, the Singaporean celebrity, while searching for the group, just chilling with friends.

















As I look more carefully at the top end jackets, I realize how large the gap is between my products and theirs. No wonder they charge S$800 (shipping excluded) for some of those! Seriously, they make my $100-200 jackets look at junk!

A jacket meant for extreme conditions and wear and tear weighing only 700g! I will never achieve that standard with my current manufacturers, not even close!



















23 March 2014

Met this cute girl again at another event organized by another club last night and we got along pretty well since we already knew each other. Pretty sure I could have gotten her number but... she turned out to be much older than she looked. Seriously, I thought she looked and sounded like around my age, but she was really 35.

That was a deal-breaker right there.

Just to clarify, I'd still totally ask her out for dinner - in fact I wanted to - but it didn't feel right to waste her time. She was looking for a husband and it would take A LOT for me to overcome my hesitation about settling down with a girl 7 years older than me, not to mention I'm not ready to settle down so soon.

Still, these events are far better than online dating sites, seriously.





















Went for two movies today but didn't really make many friends this time. I suspect I'm more tired today and henceforth I won't be going for these events on so many consecutive days.

Anyway I mentioned that joining these movie outings were better than joining than those dating outings because of my relatively young age (I was the youngest yesterday evening, and the youngest girl there was my age), and also told the group about the girl I mentioned earlier, and everyone told me that age is not a barrier.

But I'm not trying to get hitched within the next five years.

Anyway the harder a girl tries to find a partner (not just me specifically), the more hesitant I seem to get. She was not totally desperate like another girl but the way she told me about her failed attempts just turned me off. Worse was how she seemed to have given up being proactive.

The more I think about her, the less attractive she gets.

Or maybe I'm just a terrible guy.


















Looked back and thought about the two things I'm pretty sure were taught by that dating coach that I observed during the dating club event. Missed his dating seminar so trying to learn something from the guys who went was part of my reason for going there.

The first I already noticed before - don't describe yourself using the word "boring" even if it's true. I found out about that on the online dating sites because after I removed that word from my profile, responses came more often.

The second was to try to share a meal with the girl. Didn't seem to work by itself because the guy who tried that on the girl I mentioned didn't get along with her as well as I did. Looks like it has to be done together with something else. You can't just eat silently when you're sharing food with the girl, and the "Is it good?" or "How do you find it?" questions can only go so far.

And if she turns out to be some kind of connoiseur, I'm going to be pretty fucked. It would be like another girl I met during one of today's movie outings who turned out to be some kind of film and theater expert. My attempts at talking to her always ended in monologues.


















24th March 2014

So there was another girl I met on Friday evening that seemed like an unlikely choice. She was so friendly that after the last two experiences with friendly girls, I pretty much doubt that I was going to have any chance with her.

Yet... so far so good. Hopefully she's still single though, otherwise I'd feel so bad.

We only talked a bit before the movie, and she disappeared quickly after the film ended. The only reason I have her number is because of the Whatsapp group. That's the best thing about this club - every outing has its own Whatsapp group, so we don't even need to ask for anyone's number. The downside, compared to dating clubs, is that not everyone is single nor is everyone in the same age group.

But talk to her I did, the morning after. Somehow just managed to get the courage to message her, and her replies have been positive. Today, she told me I was more mature than other guys my age, so I said she was sweet, then she asked if I was employing some tricks I learnt from the dating club because I appeared to know what girls like to hear.

I just hope she's being honest like me. I mean, she really is a sweet girl if everything she's told me is true, like how she is considering a career change mainly because of her desire to help others.


















Forearm muscle pain!

This I really didn't expect when I increased the weight of the dumbbells I use from 3kg to 5kg for my shoulder exercises.

















Closed the last of my accounts in online dating sites. They suck, enough said.


















Bought a clutch. It was a little hard to find on Qoo10 because I wanted a cheap one that had a loop and was large enough for my iPad. Ended up with one that only cost less than S$30.

This is meant to be a trial run to let me see if a clutch is a good idea for me. Currently, I use a large laptop sling bag but it ruins my shirt. If I like using a clutch, I'll get a better one from the more expensive brands. Obviously a $30 clutch from some unknown Korean brand is not going to last very long, and I don't want it to break when I'm at work outside.

Also considered using my father's but the leather was coming apart.